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I just don't understand some people.....maybe never will.

Most of you that know me well know that I am a people pleaser. I do not like it when people are upset with me. Frankly, I do not like it when people don't like me and I always wonder what I could do differently to make them like me. Well, this results in very high anxiety and then I have a tendency to have a drop in self-esteem.....YES!!! It DOES bother me THAT BAD! It really stresses me out. I don't know why I care so much about others and what they think of me. One of my many flaws, I suppose....

Well, while we are at it....I have another flaw confession....I really really have a need to be appreciated. It bothers me when I go out of my way to please people and to do good for and to others and don't get recognition for it. Now, let me stress....RECOGNITION IS NOT MY MOTIVATION but geez...it sure does make one feel good! I think something that makes it worse is when you are completely slighted and the things that you do are just blown off. Come on people, be a little more grateful for crying out loud!!!!!

Do I sound a little irritated? I think that disappointed would be more like it. Disappointed. OH, and just for the record, I am not referring to patients that I work with.....if I waited for gratitude from them I would just need to quit my job!!! NO, not them.....OTHERS!

Hmm...maybe I am just too sensitive!

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Dana said…
I am the same way....I want everyone to like me and if I think they don't I dissect everything I have ever said to them to figure out why they don't....I have been working on not caring, it isn't as easy as it sounds. Don't let others bring you down, keep your head up! : )
June 17, 2008 at 7:12 AM
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