What is a friend?  Webster defines a friend as: a person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. It goes on to talk about a friend being a supporter. 
I would have the tendency to assume that everyone has at least one friend...maybe not a best friend or perhaps maybe not even a close friend but someone that they can call a friend.  I know that difference personality types lend themselves for more friends than others.  I am a sanguine which means that I have a lot of people that I consider to be my friend.  I have always been the type of person that needs and wants friends...people around me who love me, encourage me, and support me.  On the flip side of this, I have always had a hard time trusting people so I tend to be skeptical of people.  Unfortunately, a friend described me pretty accurately this morning.  She said that I (and she is the same way) have the tendency to dislike people until I have a reason to like them.  No, not proud of it...but I am just skeptical.  I have been hurt by many people in my life and I want to make sure I can trust you first.
I had a best friend in high school.  She is still very much my friend and we talk/text on a daily basis but it's different than it used to be.  I had a best friend during college and we hardly talk at all anymore.  We were maid/matron of honor in each other's weddings.  I still love her very much and still consider her a dear friend but it's different than it used to be.  I had a best friend in grad school.  We never talk anymore.  I know that she has had two little girls...that's about the extent of it.  It's different than it used to be.  I have several close friends since we have moved to Texas (in 2006) but one that I would consider my best friend.  For me, she defines a best friend better than anyone else. 
When Brice and I moved to Texas, we really didn't know anyone.  I had some family here but no friends, really.  We joined a church on Father's Day of that same year and I was about 3 months pregnant with Rachel.  I quickly met our music minister's wife, Krista, who was also pregnant with their first baby girl, Chelsea.  We became friends but became pretty close after our girls were born.  We both stayed home with our girls and grew closer as time went on.

We have both now had 3 children a piece. We were pregnant at the same time...all three times. We have gone to church together, worshipped together, prayed, laughed, and cried together. We have also disagreed and shared difficult times. We have talked about things that I don't talk about to anyone else. She has been my best friend. We have done life in all aspects of the word! She is one of the greatest friends I will ever have!!! Ever!

Krista moved. On Sunday, May 6, I formally told her goodbye and wished her well for her new life, in a new city, at a new church! I was/am sad. I don't like change and I dont like not having my friends close. She is 2 hours away and I'm sad. I will visit but for now...I'm sad!

Friends are friends forever if the Lord's the Lord of them....forever friends...


Lacy said…
Sorry that she moved away but hopefully y'all can stay close in contact and not let the distances get in the way to much. ;)
Katrina Jones said…
Oh girl, way to make me cry. I never really thought of why I don't have many close close friends until I read this. I am the same way....It's so hard to trust "new" people because I have been hurt so many times by people that I thought were friends. I know you're hurting (sad) over Krista moving. My heart hurt for both of you when I heard of their leaving because we all at IBC know you two were/are the best of friends. Praying your sad heart won't be sad for long.

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